What Do You Really Want?

What Do You Really Want?

What do you really want? A six-pack, six-figure, six-foot man? You've told me so. But have you found Jesus? Because it may take a lifetime to chase the shadow, but in the blink of an eye, the real thing may be found.  He is the one man who knows you in the most intimate level, yet will never leave you ashamed and full of regrets.  He is the One who will heal your broken heart, restore your lost years, and allow you to see past your trauma into your deliverance.  He will make you whole so the one who finds you can truly admire your beauty and virtue in a way no one ever noticed or acknowledged.

You must first find Jesus to even know what to look for in a man.  Without His light, your vision is unformed and skewed at its best.  That man you want might just be a charismatic brother gifted with the knowledge to swindle you out of your destiny for a bowl of soup.  You will not realize it until after the transaction has been made and the deal is sealed.  The man you desire, like a genie, may grant your wishes, but at what cost? He is a mythical giant who promises to conquer your world, only to conquer you.  True, he will look good and even make you feel special for a bit, but he will eventually use you up and throw you aside like a cheap snack, not the full meal you are. He’s the type who says you’re not worthy unless you accept his polygamous game. He is one who you wish would value you but how could he when you first placed the high value on him? 

True value isn't found in a man's bank account or biceps, but in a person who built their own kingdom on a foundation of faith. You want to conquer? Then build your house with God, not a giant who will tear it down. He is the storm, and only Jesus can rescue you from it.  Stop chasing the shadow of a six-pack, six-figure man. Before you seek a partner, pursue God, seek virtue and a moral high ground to stand on when all else fails.   

But I am in no position to judge.  I've been there, done that and I got the T-shirt. Yet, I must tell you, he's not high value. Worse, he is the narcissist to your opportunist.  We cannot continue to play the victim when we engage in the game to play ourselves.  We must realize that love by nature is a game designed for us to lose.  It is not even a casino where we at times strike gold.  It is the end of ourselves, the death of us.  Accepting to fall in love is accepting to lose the most precious thing to us, not reluctantly giving it away or being scammed out of it, but willingly surrendering that pearl of great value to a connoisseur who will showcase it or a pig who will trample over it. 

In all this, the most important thing we can do is seek the discernment required to determine who is approaching: a helper or destroyer.  And if our life is a city, the only way to protect it against enemy invasion is not to cease to shine, but to ensure our walls are guarded day and night by the One who neither sleeps nor slumbers.  The only way we can never be besieged or devastated in love is to always be surrounded by love who in its purity and might has already conquered all. 

Let it be so!